How do I become more patient in a conversation??
Question: When in conversation, I tend to interrupt the other person with a reply or comment. I do not think this is on purpose, I just have answers/comments ready to go. I can also be very scatter brained. When in some conversations, my mind will wander & my next statement can be something completely off-topic, then back to the same conversation. I lose focas very quickly if someoen has to explain something over & over or just take a very long time to do it.
Answers: Just do it.
Don't try to do it. It takes you learning to keep your mouth shut. Everytime a wild thought pops in your mind. remember to shut up and listen to the other person.
Maybe you have ADD. See your doctor, he can prescribe pills that will fix it.
I used to do this all the time, and I think I have analyzed the reason in my case. First, I have a poor memory, and I interrupt because I am afraid I am going to forget what I was going to say if I wait until they are done talking. Second, I don't always know when a person is actually done talking, and when they have just taken a pause. Third, I want to answer to tell them I know something, when it sounds like they are going to go on and tell me something I already know. Fourth, related to third, I have a regretable tendency to show off.
How to cure it? Be patient. Accept longer pauses, even silences, in a conversation. The smartest man I ever knew would take long pauses before he replied. I used to worry people would think he was slow and stupid, but eventually I realized he was choosing his words very carefully, and putting together a much better answer than if he had jumped in.
auntB93 has answered the question very well, she basicaly described exacly how i was and why i acted this way as well.
With age, i learned to be more patient and no think about what my reply is going to be. I simply wait for someone to be done. Yeah sure you might already know sometimes what they are trying to say but interupting people will cause them to dislike you unconciously. It's an acquired skilled and you need to pratice patient listening. People love someone who listens to them, so if you want to be popular, listen. Also conversation isnt a race for someone to win, so take your time and think
It does sound like ADD, or a manic episode. If it's always been this way, then it's not mania. I say hey, if the people you know and love get annoyed with you because you do that, then they should learn to accept that it's part of who you are and you're not doing it to be a jerk. It's a quirky quality. They should learn to deal with it.
Answers: Just do it.
Don't try to do it. It takes you learning to keep your mouth shut. Everytime a wild thought pops in your mind. remember to shut up and listen to the other person.
Maybe you have ADD. See your doctor, he can prescribe pills that will fix it.
I used to do this all the time, and I think I have analyzed the reason in my case. First, I have a poor memory, and I interrupt because I am afraid I am going to forget what I was going to say if I wait until they are done talking. Second, I don't always know when a person is actually done talking, and when they have just taken a pause. Third, I want to answer to tell them I know something, when it sounds like they are going to go on and tell me something I already know. Fourth, related to third, I have a regretable tendency to show off.
How to cure it? Be patient. Accept longer pauses, even silences, in a conversation. The smartest man I ever knew would take long pauses before he replied. I used to worry people would think he was slow and stupid, but eventually I realized he was choosing his words very carefully, and putting together a much better answer than if he had jumped in.
auntB93 has answered the question very well, she basicaly described exacly how i was and why i acted this way as well.
With age, i learned to be more patient and no think about what my reply is going to be. I simply wait for someone to be done. Yeah sure you might already know sometimes what they are trying to say but interupting people will cause them to dislike you unconciously. It's an acquired skilled and you need to pratice patient listening. People love someone who listens to them, so if you want to be popular, listen. Also conversation isnt a race for someone to win, so take your time and think
It does sound like ADD, or a manic episode. If it's always been this way, then it's not mania. I say hey, if the people you know and love get annoyed with you because you do that, then they should learn to accept that it's part of who you are and you're not doing it to be a jerk. It's a quirky quality. They should learn to deal with it.
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