Can counsellors accept..??
Question: a gift? I told mine i was going on holiday and when i was i got something her small (box of sweets)...but i am not sure if counsellors can accept gifts..so maybe i should just tell her i got them for everyone in the office?
are they?
it's not as if i can get attached to her or it's really crossing ay boundaries as i have to leave her soon anyway as the service she works for is short term.
any advise or anyone been through similar...or any counsellors out there no if youz can accept gifts?
Answers: There isn't a simple answer to this question, I'm afraid. If she is working for an agency, they may have rules about this which she is bound by, but they might not and there is nothing set in stone. The way I work (as a psychotherapist) I would accept a gift if it wasn't too big (I once refused something costing more than I would have spent on myself!), but I might talk to the client about what they were wanting to say with their gift. If you are wanting to communicate to your counsellor how much you appreciate her work with you, my guess is she will accept it unless the agency has a rule not to. But in a sense you just have to take the risk - she's not going to be angry and if she says she won't accept it, then you can always give it to someone else.
For everyone in the office. That's perfect. No, it's best not to try to give individual doctors, therapist/counselors any gifts. Great idea to provide a little treat for the office. They can accept that.
Personally I think you would be better saying for the whole office as giving personal gifts can be taken the wrong way
Most counsellors and other professionals I've seen and worked with would not be allowed to accept gifts anyway, as it would be seen as crossing boundaries
It's best not to put either of you in an awkward position - even though you seem to be under no illusions about the short term nature of the relationship, which is good.
Keep it simple it usually is the safest option.
The organisation I work for has it written into the rules, regulations and guidelines that we work to, that we should not accept gifts.
We then can't be seen as being biased towards anyone. And those who can't afford to buy such things aren't made to feel inferior.
This also applied when I worked in local government in an office. Again, employees are not allowed to accept and gift or incentive that can be seen in anyway to influence the way they treat anyone.
when i was working at the blood puncture center we sometimes accepted gifts such as chocolate boxes which were unopened. i we received something that was cooked and that the composition was unknown, we didn't eat it (could have been poisonous). we couldn't accept money (i would have been rich otherwise if every patient gave me 1$ each, 50-80 patients a day, 5 days a week, 52 weeks = 13 000$ minimum!)
so i say, offer them a box of chocolate or flowers and they will be very happy.
it depends on which agency they are working for
I think it very much depends on your counsellor and how she feels about it.
Most counsellors will bend the rules if they think that you are just being nice.
If I were you, I'd give them to her as a thank you for helping you. When you give them to her, say I got these for you as a thank you for helping me, but if you aren't allowed to accept gifts, just share them out in the office .
I am an Assistant Psychologist and I was never actually given any guidance about whether or not to accept gifts. I think it comes down to what your counsellor thinks. As you are a girl yourself, she probably will accept them. If you were a boy, she might be worried about attachment and not accept them.
I think it's nice that you bought them for her. At least if you give her the option to share them out with her other colleagues, she can do.
xx Emmie
You won't like my answer, but no i don't think you should ever give your counselor a gift.
I wanted to give mine one, and like you was unsure, so i looked things up on the internet and read a lot of stuff. Basically what i learned was that giving your counselor a gift is a way to try and make them become more a part of your life on a personal level.
When i thought about it and was honest with myself, it was true. I wanted my counselor to become more than a counselor and i sub-consciously thought that a gift would buy me more into her life in some sort of silly way.
Anyway, my point is that most counselors would be aware that a patient who buys them a gift has become a little besotted with them.
Don't embarrass yourself. Keep it professional. If you want to show your gratitude, then a thoughtful card is the way to go. Good luck.
I dont see why you can't give her a small gift as long as you make it clear it is in appericiation for helping you through a difficult time. And that it's just ment for that. Be honest with her as to why you are givining the gift and if she can't accept it, then offer it to the the office as a way of thanks for the service they provided. She will more than likey share the sweets with her colleages any way.
I've given my therapist gifts. As long as it is not overly expensive or something, I think most of them will accept the gift.
I think small gift of no monetary value, as such, are seen as OK. I think the rule is, only expensive things can't be kept. I seen a programme not long back about nurses, so presumable councillors are the same.
you can get her a gift.she has helped you out,you're just showing appreciation thats all. i don't think you are overstepping any bounderies & i doubt she will think that either
are they?
it's not as if i can get attached to her or it's really crossing ay boundaries as i have to leave her soon anyway as the service she works for is short term.
any advise or anyone been through similar...or any counsellors out there no if youz can accept gifts?
Answers: There isn't a simple answer to this question, I'm afraid. If she is working for an agency, they may have rules about this which she is bound by, but they might not and there is nothing set in stone. The way I work (as a psychotherapist) I would accept a gift if it wasn't too big (I once refused something costing more than I would have spent on myself!), but I might talk to the client about what they were wanting to say with their gift. If you are wanting to communicate to your counsellor how much you appreciate her work with you, my guess is she will accept it unless the agency has a rule not to. But in a sense you just have to take the risk - she's not going to be angry and if she says she won't accept it, then you can always give it to someone else.
For everyone in the office. That's perfect. No, it's best not to try to give individual doctors, therapist/counselors any gifts. Great idea to provide a little treat for the office. They can accept that.
Personally I think you would be better saying for the whole office as giving personal gifts can be taken the wrong way
Most counsellors and other professionals I've seen and worked with would not be allowed to accept gifts anyway, as it would be seen as crossing boundaries
It's best not to put either of you in an awkward position - even though you seem to be under no illusions about the short term nature of the relationship, which is good.
Keep it simple it usually is the safest option.
The organisation I work for has it written into the rules, regulations and guidelines that we work to, that we should not accept gifts.
We then can't be seen as being biased towards anyone. And those who can't afford to buy such things aren't made to feel inferior.
This also applied when I worked in local government in an office. Again, employees are not allowed to accept and gift or incentive that can be seen in anyway to influence the way they treat anyone.
when i was working at the blood puncture center we sometimes accepted gifts such as chocolate boxes which were unopened. i we received something that was cooked and that the composition was unknown, we didn't eat it (could have been poisonous). we couldn't accept money (i would have been rich otherwise if every patient gave me 1$ each, 50-80 patients a day, 5 days a week, 52 weeks = 13 000$ minimum!)
so i say, offer them a box of chocolate or flowers and they will be very happy.
it depends on which agency they are working for
I think it very much depends on your counsellor and how she feels about it.
Most counsellors will bend the rules if they think that you are just being nice.
If I were you, I'd give them to her as a thank you for helping you. When you give them to her, say I got these for you as a thank you for helping me, but if you aren't allowed to accept gifts, just share them out in the office .
I am an Assistant Psychologist and I was never actually given any guidance about whether or not to accept gifts. I think it comes down to what your counsellor thinks. As you are a girl yourself, she probably will accept them. If you were a boy, she might be worried about attachment and not accept them.
I think it's nice that you bought them for her. At least if you give her the option to share them out with her other colleagues, she can do.
xx Emmie
You won't like my answer, but no i don't think you should ever give your counselor a gift.
I wanted to give mine one, and like you was unsure, so i looked things up on the internet and read a lot of stuff. Basically what i learned was that giving your counselor a gift is a way to try and make them become more a part of your life on a personal level.
When i thought about it and was honest with myself, it was true. I wanted my counselor to become more than a counselor and i sub-consciously thought that a gift would buy me more into her life in some sort of silly way.
Anyway, my point is that most counselors would be aware that a patient who buys them a gift has become a little besotted with them.
Don't embarrass yourself. Keep it professional. If you want to show your gratitude, then a thoughtful card is the way to go. Good luck.
I dont see why you can't give her a small gift as long as you make it clear it is in appericiation for helping you through a difficult time. And that it's just ment for that. Be honest with her as to why you are givining the gift and if she can't accept it, then offer it to the the office as a way of thanks for the service they provided. She will more than likey share the sweets with her colleages any way.
I've given my therapist gifts. As long as it is not overly expensive or something, I think most of them will accept the gift.
I think small gift of no monetary value, as such, are seen as OK. I think the rule is, only expensive things can't be kept. I seen a programme not long back about nurses, so presumable councillors are the same.
you can get her a gift.she has helped you out,you're just showing appreciation thats all. i don't think you are overstepping any bounderies & i doubt she will think that either
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